Older sibling should befriend the younger ones,
Younger sibling should respect and love the older ones.
Siblings who keep harmonious relationships among themselves,
Are being dutiful to their parents.(12)
When siblings value their ties more than property and belongings,
No resentment will grow among them.
When siblings are careful with words and hold back hurtful comments,
Feelings of anger naturally die out.
Whether you are drinking, eating,
Walking, or sitting,
Let elders go first,
Younger ones should follow.
When the elder is asking for someone,
Get that person for him right away.
If you cannot find that person,
Immediately report back and instead put yourself at the elder’s service.
When you address an elder,
Do not call him by his given name,(13) this is in accord with ancient Chinese etiquette.
In front of an elder,
Do not show off.
If you meet an elder you know on the street,
Promptly clasp your hands and greet him with a bow.
If he does not speak to you,
Step back and respectfully stand aside.
If an elder you know is on foot while you are riding on a horse,(14) you should dismount and pay respect to the elder.
If you are riding in a carriage,(15) you should stop, get out of the carriage and ask if you can give him a ride.
If you meet an elder passing by, you should stand aside and wait respectfully,
Do not leave until you can no longer see him.
When an elder is standing,
Do not sit.
After an elder sits down,
Sit only when you are told.
Before an elder,
Speak softly.
If your voice is too low and hard to hear,
It is not appropriate.
When meeting an elder, walk briskly towards him,
When leaving, do not exit in haste.
When answering a question,
Look at the person who is asking you the question.
Serve your uncles
As if you are serving your parents;(16)
Treat your cousins
As if they are your own siblings.(17)
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(12) Parents are happy when their children are getting along with each other. This is one of children's ways of showing they are dutiful to their parents.
(13) In ancient China, a male person had at least two names. The first name was the "given name", which was given to him by his parents when he was born. A second name was given to him by his friends when he reached the age of 20 at a "Ceremony of the Hat" given in his honor to announce his coming of age. After that only his parent called him by his "given name". Everyone else, out of respect, including the emperor, could only call him by his second name. The only exception was if he committed a crime. During sentencing he would be called by his "given name".
(14) In ancient China, most people used horses or carriages as their means of transportation.
(15) See note 14.
(16) See note 2.
(17) See note 2.
Source Of Information:
《Standards for Being a Good Student and Child》, translated by Pure Land Learning College Translation Association, printed in August 2012, distributed by Amitabha Buddhist Society Malaysia (92, Jalan Pahang, 53300 Gombak, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia)
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